You raise some valid points - let's look at it from a completely different angle, namely what's our goals.
I'd like two things to happen: First for the lady blogger mom to get over it, and second for the TSA to be sharply pulled back from their ever more ridiculous policies which are both ineffective and intrusive. They're incompetent monkeys and we keep giving them more power. Which, unsurprisingly, only makes them more annoying, not more competent.
Firstly, if you consider yourself a "victim" of anything your best recourse is one of reflection, and ultimately one of forgiveness in the knowledge that the perpetrators are more insane than other people. You are not a victim. Something happened to you - it was bad - it can't be changed now - but is it going to ruin the rest of your life? That's for you to decide all alone.
You don't forgive in order to make life somehow easier for whoever wronged you - you do it in order to make your own life better.
Second the TSA policies and procedures are a joke. The TSA must be stopped. If it takes people getting outraged or stopping air travel to do this - I am all for it. Publish this story as widely as possible, crack jokes on Leno, etc - I don't think it takes away from actual victims of actual sexual harassment (or worse). Victim-hood is overrated, and I firmly believe that the active approach is the only valid approach to solve trauma. Avoidance of the topic isn't going to solve anything (neither is confrontation BTW - insight is what is needed and what resolves seemingly impossible problems in an instant).
I'd like two things to happen: First for the lady blogger mom to get over it, and second for the TSA to be sharply pulled back from their ever more ridiculous policies which are both ineffective and intrusive. They're incompetent monkeys and we keep giving them more power. Which, unsurprisingly, only makes them more annoying, not more competent.
Firstly, if you consider yourself a "victim" of anything your best recourse is one of reflection, and ultimately one of forgiveness in the knowledge that the perpetrators are more insane than other people. You are not a victim. Something happened to you - it was bad - it can't be changed now - but is it going to ruin the rest of your life? That's for you to decide all alone.
I'll refer you to the Buddhist parable of Two Monks here [http://www.examiner.com/buddhism-in-national/buddhist-parabl...]
You don't forgive in order to make life somehow easier for whoever wronged you - you do it in order to make your own life better.
Second the TSA policies and procedures are a joke. The TSA must be stopped. If it takes people getting outraged or stopping air travel to do this - I am all for it. Publish this story as widely as possible, crack jokes on Leno, etc - I don't think it takes away from actual victims of actual sexual harassment (or worse). Victim-hood is overrated, and I firmly believe that the active approach is the only valid approach to solve trauma. Avoidance of the topic isn't going to solve anything (neither is confrontation BTW - insight is what is needed and what resolves seemingly impossible problems in an instant).
Sorry this is not more coherent. Argh.