Well, it's not how most Linux distros do it. If your update has breaking changes, it's not a security update.
There is no good reason to excuse Microsoft for maliciously disguising updates as security patches in order to manipulate the non tech-savvy into switching to their new unprecedentedly invasive OS. Especially when, as you said, the UI is worse.
The entire UX of Windows 10 is worse, every time I have to use it for something I get physical anxiety from claustrophobia.
I really don't like that I have to install untrusted 3rd party software on my computer in order to prevent my operating system from automatically ruining my user experience and spying on me.